It’s Not About “Not Fighting” — It’s About Learning to Fight Better!

Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship. But it’s not about avoiding disagreements; it’s about learning how to navigate them more effectively. The good news is, changing your conflict style is possible — and while it’s not easy, it’s absolutely worth the effort.

Research by the Gottman Institute reveals an essential truth: most people involved in conflict don’t have malicious intentions. Instead, everyone simply wants to be understood. Recognising this shift in mindset can make a huge difference, especially when emotions start to escalate. If we can remember this — even when only one partner is trying to slow things down —

we're less likely to blurt out hurtful comments that can damage the relationship and pull us further away from resolving the true issue at hand.

Mindfulness, regular meditation, and breathing exercises during moments of tension can help couples build a healthier way of handling conflict. By staying grounded in the present moment, we create the space to listen, understand, and respond more thoughtfully, leading to more productive and compassionate conversations.